Tattoos, submission, and growing up
January 26, 2010
At his blog Moore to the Point, Russell D. Moore answers a question from a 19-year-old about his desire to get a Christian tattoo and his desire to honor his parents. Moore deals with all the right questions in his response. Most helpful to me is the way he speaks to an issue that has come up from time to time in my ministry to families. Teens, especially those in the midst of rebellion, cling to a cherished belief that once they turn 18, then they are adults and no longer have to submit to parents. This is one of the most ridiculous statements ever made, and yes, I know all the things that most states in the U.S. say an 18-year-old can legally do. Moore handles it biblically (and more thoughtfully than I often do):
When does your obedience to parents end or, better put, when are you responsible for making your own decisions?
It isn’t at eighteen. The Bible never puts eighteen or twenty-one as some arbitrary mark between childhood and maturity. Instead, in Scripture, maturity is less a chronological or biological matter than an economic one. When are you able to establish a household, a household for which you are responsible? The creation pattern is that a man is equipped to provide for his household (Gen. 2:15). He then “leaves father and mother” as he cleaves to his wife and forms (within the larger tribe) a new household (Gen. 2:24).
Between childhood and maturity, your parents are working to prepare you for this responsibility, handing over more and more of it to you as you prepare to give yourself over for the provision and protection of a wife and family (Eph. 5) or for the sake of the mission (1 Cor. 7).
Read the entire question and response here.
